Faith in the Home Forum and a Giveaway

Welcome to the first official discussion for the Faith in the Home Forum! I am excited you could join in the discussion today about creating a “Sticky Faith: Everyday Ideas to Build Lasting Faith in Your Kids”  (affiliate link) through intergenerational mentorship, navigating doubts, and modeling genuine faith.

Now, I did share some resources/homework for those who were interested, but it is not required to join in the discussion. I would love to hear your input as a parent, young adult, or from the perspective of whatever season of life you currently reside in.

In Kara Powell’s research she found that intentional intergenerational relationships, allowing room for doubts, and living an authentic faith are huge in forming a faith that will stick.

Now, may it be noted, that there is no magic formula for ensuring faith in your children. Nonetheless, there are many things we as parents can cultivate and model that can give our children the tools to build an authentic faith.

So, here are this week’s questions and my responses. Please share your responses as well in the comments! I will be sharing you input in a post later this week. 

What are you doing to encourage intentional intergenerational relationships within your child’s life? Do they have connections to Christian adults other than you and your spouse?

Well, Rebekah is quite young at this point, but I am excited that there are so many women of all ages, ranging from teenagers to other young moms to older women, who have an interest in and relationship with Rebekah that I hope will continue as she grows older. Of course, everyone loves a cute baby. I know as she grows older, I will have to encourage her to think of at least five adults that she would like to have as intentional mentors. My job is to make sure there are already other appropriate adults within her world (besides Mitch and I) that she would feel comfortable going to about struggles or questions.

What role did intergenerational relationships (if any) play in your faith formation?

Mitch and I sought out intentional mentors in college before we got married, and it was one of the best decisions we ever made. We basically asked older couples that we looked up to if they would have dinner with us and share some wisdom. Not only did they help strengthen our marriage and encourage us, they spoke truth into our faith walk. As college students, we were walking through pivotal years of making our faith our own, and their example and intentional mentorship strengthened our faith and allowed room for our questions. I also had several adults at church and church camp who were mentors to me as I grew up in my teen years. As a young mom, I still seek mentors and am happy to say I have found a few. 🙂

Has your child ever expressed doubts about his or her faith? How did you respond? Were they able to work through them, or are they ongoing doubts?

Once again, Rebekah is currently too young for me to answer this as a parent. But we have encountered this with teenagers. I think it is important to not freak out and to realize that we all struggle with doubts from time to time. We do not have to have all the answers, but we can pray about it, study the Bible together, and follow up with them. I think the worst thing we can do is give them a phony response that brushes off their doubts with a trite answer–though this can be tempting to save face if we don’t have an answer. Ask what they think, and let them know that it is okay to have questions. 

Do you remember struggling with doubts–or do you still? (There is no shame in it, I think most people do.)

This hasn’t been a major struggle for me. But they do crop up on occasion. Less of life-shaking doubts, and more “wonderings”. I’ve always taken comfort in knowing that God is bigger than I can ever understand–and that is okay. If I understood everything about Him, then I could have created Him and He wouldn’t be God. 

How do you strive to daily live out a vibrant and authentic faith?

As we are told in Romans 12, this requires is a daily renewal and commitment to refresh my mind. And let me be frank and say that I struggle with this! Taking a few minutes every morning to “reset and renew” is huge. But it doesn’t always happen. I strive to internalize God’s word, pray the Lord’s Prayer with open hands and awareness, pray for wisdom, pray for those in my life, read books that inspire me and make me think, journal from time to time–and most importantly, I try to live my faith through how I treat others, how I respond, and how I love. Some days are better than others. I also try to live a life of thankfulness, because when God has given us such great grace–how can we not help but be thankful?! Keeping a thankfulness journal of the small, simple, unexpected gifts has been powerful for me. 

Please join in the discussion! Also, don’t miss the giveaway I am running for a copy of Sticky Faith. I will ship a copy straight to the winner when the giveaway closes in a week!

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Next Week’s Topic:

Rebekah and IMeg Meeker’s interviews about motherhood: “Under the Influence: Peer Pressure”, “Eliminating Competition”, and “Enjoying the Simple Life.” 

You don’t have to answer all of the questions. Feel free to pick and choose or focus in on one. Here are the questions to consider (even if you don’t listen to the podcasts):

  1. Meg Meeker speaks about the peer pressure in motherhood to not only keep up as a mother, but to make sure our kids are keeping up as well. Is this something you have experienced or struggled with?
  2. How do you decide how many activities to let your children be involved in?
  3. What is the condition of your soul? What are you doing to feed it?
  4. Do you find that you are a better wife and mother when you get positive friend time outside of the house?
  5. Do you struggle with feeling like your value and validation as a mother comes from your children’s performance or successes?
  6. Are you afraid that your children will be deprived and fall behind their peers if you pull them from extracurricular activities?
  7. As a mom, do you feel the demands of perfectionism?
  8. How do you handle boredom with your children?
  9. What season of life are you (as a woman) in?
  10. Do you struggle with the “should-dos” thoughts? How do you combat those thoughts?

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5 thoughts on “Faith in the Home Forum and a Giveaway

  1. I have a lil time after all…=0)

    What are you doing to encourage intentional intergenerational relationships within your child’s life? Do they have connections to Christian adults other than you and your spouse?

    I think the key term is “connections” and definitely more positively influencing connections. I think everyone needs to stay connected to somebody that they know care and love them whether it’s Christian or not. That’s how God demonstrates his care and love for us through others he place in our lives. Now that I am a Christian, these connections or relationships mean even more to me for their significance in how God has played a role even from the beginning! We make sure our kids first and foremost know they have positive familial support to stabilize and secure their childhood foundation. The faith aspect should build from there.

    What role did intergenerational relationships (if any) play in your faith formation?

    I find it easier to talk to people who are older than me after college. I want to suck their wisdom and learn from their mistakes or victories. I want to get a glimpse into the future through them! I’m definitely not the type of person that seeks to know life through personal experiences. I’m perfectly fine hearing and learning from others. And because my enthusiasm is obvious, I’ve had a few at different places/phases of my life. They become my friends faster than people my age! The bible verse about older people mentoring the young I absolutely agree with and seek it in my life.

    Has your child ever expressed doubts about his or her faith? How did you respond? Were they able to work through them, or are they ongoing doubts?

    My kids are still too young. But in future, I’m totally fine with my kids expressing doubts as long as they never shut the door completely on Christianity. God will close and open doors. God will open our ears and eyes at unexpected times. God will work on our minds and hearts so profoundly as long as we read and strive to understand His Words. I may not be able to do anything but ultimately as long as they always consider Mathew 7:7-8 – Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.

    Do you remember struggling with doubts–or do you still? (There is no shame in it, I think most people do.)

    The definition of faith from the bible goes, “now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see” (Hebrew 11:1). My husband is not a Christian (yet) and he asks very hard, challenging and yes relevant questions about my faith. And usually by the end of our discussions, I’d start to get upset when it seemed that we weren’t on the right page (I just couldn’t answer to his complete satisfaction). But by now, I’ve realized that it’s ok if I don’t know the answers. I am not a historian nor a theologian nor a scientist or mathematician or debater and definitely not the best communicator. Oftentimes, I simply just don’t know. He would ask me why if I don’t know? My answer is what I do know and what I don’t know, faith covers it. So even with my 55% or 75% or 99% certainty, faith will cover the rest and that’s 100% good enough for me! And I strive to do what I wrote above…remember to always go back to His Words (the Holy Spirit is continually at work!)

    How do you strive to daily live out a vibrant and authentic faith?

    By not giving up. By picking myself up and trying again…and again…and again. 2 Timothy 4:6-7 – “For I am already being poured out like a drink offering, and the time for my departure is near. I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. ” God’s Word is with me, his Holy Spirit dwells in me. I need to always go back to His Word to change my mind and heart and give me strength and courage! I need to strive to stay and finish the race! That’s keeping my faith.

    • Thank you for sharing Andrea! I love your insights and the verses that you share. I think your perseverance to remeber “God’s Word is with me, his Holy Spirit dwells in me. I need to always go back to His Word to change my mind and heart and give me strength and courage! I need to strive to stay and finish the race! That’s keeping my faith.” is exactly what it means to have an active faith! We are in a race–a marathon and we may stumble sometimes or need to stop and tie our shoes, but we must keep pressing on and keeping faith. 🙂 I am excited that our girls will (hopefully) have a friendship that continues and that we can encourage our families together. Thank you for sharing.

  2. I love these ideas, and I think these are really important questions to be asking. We have been very intentional about making sure our kiddos have several people in the church to connect with in part by having high school kids and college kids babysit but also by allowing Kyrie to go on “play dates” with some of our young adults to the botanical gardens or a local museum. I hope that as she gets older she will have developed deep relationships with these “friends” at church.

    • I love those ideas Jessica. You are planting seeds for future relationships. I remember how much I looked up to the teen girls when I was young. 🙂 We have a couple teen girls here that love working with kids and help teach in the nursery on a regular occasion. It has been cool to see how Rebekah forms relationships with those she sees on a consistent basis.

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